On Purpose with Jay Shetty

Why do we fall victim to love bombing?

Why do we attract narcissists?

Dr. Ramani is back with eye-opening and science-based insights on narcissism. Dr. Ramani is a licensed clinical psychologist, Professor Emerita of Psychology at California State University Los Angeles, and the Founder and CEO of LUNA Education, Training & Consulting.

Dr. Ramani discusses the difference between narcissism versus narcissistic personality disorder. She dives into the signs of love bombing and how to stop attracting narcissists. Dr. Ramani also talks about the practical strategies for safeguarding yourself from attracting narcissistic personalities into your life and how to spot the red flags and establish healthy boundaries.
Join us in understanding the complexities of narcissism, how to foster resilience, establish boundaries, and reclaim yourself.

With Love and Gratitude,
Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

00:00 Intro
01:09 Narcissism Versus Narcissistic Personality Disorder
05:41 Why Narcissistic People Make History
09:28 How to Not Attract a Narcissist
11:27 A Narcissistic Person is Like a Volcano
14:38 Love Bombing is Winning You Over with Attunement
15:24 From Love Bombing to What Went Wrong
18:11 Empaths Get Stuck in Trauma-Bonded Relationships
21:45 The Impact of Narcissistic Abuse
25:29 Can You Disengage from a Narcissistic Partner?
26:36 Repeat Perpetrators Harm the Forgiver
28:21 You Can Empathize and Not Forgive
30:42 What is Radical Acceptance?
32:39 Flexibility in Our Psyche
35:20 Grief is the Most Human Experience
38:06 How to Recreate Your Own Subjective Focus
44:13 How to Pull Yourself from any Form of Gaslighting
48:58 Can a Narcissist Ever Heal?
53:38 Is Change Possible?

Episode Resources:
- Dr. Ramani | Website
- Dr. Ramani | Instagram
- Dr. Ramani | YouTube
- Dr. Ramani | TikTok
-It's Not You: Identifying and Healing from Narcissistic People

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Do you find yourself thinking too much about other people’s opinions?

Is it starting to feel like it’s negatively affecting your life?

Today, Jay unveils the subtle yet pervasive signs that indicate a deep-seated concern for others' opinions and the telltale signs that you may be overly influenced by external validation, from struggling to assert boundaries to outsourcing your decision-making to others.

Jay Also talks about actionable tips and strategies for reclaiming your sense of self-worth and how to draw inspiration from those who have walked a similar path before you, cultivating resilience and self-assurance in the face of external judgment. Explore the transformative power of reframing your self-perception and embracing a mindset of self-acceptance, as Jay emphasizes the importance of clarity and self-awareness in navigating life's challenges.

In this episode, you'll learn:

• How to not crave external validation
• How to stop people-pleasing
• How to not get swayed by other people’s opinions
• How to stand your ground

Gain practical tools for cultivating inner strength and confidence, from reframing negative self-talk to recognizing the inherent value of your own opinions and choices.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:11 Stop Caring About What People Think
• 04:10 Sign #1: You Get Easily Swayed
• 05:36 Sign #2: You Struggle to Say NO
• 06:18 Sign #3: We Often Want to Please Others
• 06:40 Sign #4: You Outsource Your Choices
• 09:22 Tip #1: Someone Has Been Through a Similar Experience Before You
• 17:00 Tip #2: Don’t Be Someone Who Gossips About Others
• 18:52 Tip #3: Be Clear About How You Feel About Yourself
• 21:06 Tip #4: Opinions Don’t Become Your Reality
• 22:19 Tip #5: Think of the Three Best Decisions You’ve Made in Your Life
• 24:20 Tip #6: People Are Not Thinking About As Much As You Think They Are

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Do you tend to feel tired after eating?

Do you want to learn simple changes to stay energized and avoid the 3 PM slump?

On this special episode of On Purpose, My wife Radhi joins us! Radhi is a clinical dietician, nutritionist, and always learning to cook. Radhi brings a modern approach to the ancient principles of holistic wellbeing and earned her Ayurvedic Health Counselor 1 degree at the California College of Ayurveda. Radhi's first ever book called JoyFull: Cook Effortlessly, Eat Freely, Live Radiantly is out right now.

In this episode, Radhi teaches how to nourish our body in a way that's truly individual to you. Plus, pick up some practical tips for making sustainable changes in your diet and embracing the method of Ayurveda for balance and well-being.

Further into the episode, Radhi touches on the three modes of Ayurveda and how they influence our eating habits, intuitive eating practices that honor your body's signals, and the valuable insights to optimize digestion and transform your relationship with food.

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to change your diet
• How food affects your mood
• The right way to eat proteins
• How to create positive daily routines
• How to change your mindset about food

Get ready to savor each moment, embrace mindful eating, and cultivate a deeper connection with your body and soul.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 04:17 Recipes Inspired by Family and Love for Food
• 07:09 The Individual nature of Healing Your Body
• 12:01 How to Make Sustainable Changes in Your Body
• 14:52 The Three Modes in Ayurveda
• 20:08 Your Body Deteriorates when You Stop Listening to the Body Cues
• 23:40 Eat Until Satisfied, Not Stuffed
• 28:35 Why You Need to CHew Your Food Properly
• 32:50 Avoid Cold Drinks and Iced Beverages
• 35:38 Does Skipping Meals Work?
• 38:31 On a Busy Day, How Can You Slow Down?
• 41:41 Overeating Proteins Harm the Body
• 45:02 How to Change Your Relationship with Food
• 51:18 The Value of Spices
• 55:58 What is Your Morning Routine?
• 58:03 How to Not Feel Lethargic After Lunch
• 01:00:57 Best Practices for Evening Routines
• 01:05:24 The Recipe Game
• 01:11:28 What is Your Hope for People?

Episode Resources:

• Radhi Devlukia | Website
• Radhi Devlukia | Instagram
• Radhi Devlukia | YouTube
• Radhi Devlukia | Facebook
• Radhi Devlukia | TikTok
• JoyFull: Cook Effortlessly, Eat Freely, Live Radiantly

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How do your 'icks' affect your dating life?

And what's the ultimate key to better dating?

Today, Jay is sharing the conversation he had with Jared Freid and Jordana Abraham where he was being interviewed in their podcast, U Up?. The U Up? is a definitive modern dating podcast where they discuss their take on the ebbs and flows of the crazy dating world we live in.

Jay talks about a wide array of topics including the challenges of booking guests for new podcasts, the importance of preparing for important interviews, and his unique approach to every show, offering listeners a diverse and enriching experience with each episode.

The conversation takes on a serious note when Jay talks about his take expressing anger, dealing with insecurities, and navigating the complexities of modern dating. Gain valuable insights into mindfulness practices and learn how to focus on the wins while amplifying the abundance of life.

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to deal with insecurities
• How to become a better partner
• How to change your mindset about dating

Truth be told, dating remains one of the challenging hurdles we go through in life but it is also one of the most rewarding when we find the right person to spend our life with.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:43 Calming Positive Influence to Others
• 03:29 The Competitive Aspect of Drinking Games
• 05:26 The Difficulty of Booking Guests for New Podcasts
• 07:05 Preparing for Important Guests
• 08:54 Every Show Has a Unique Offering
• 11:27 How Do You Express Anger and Hate?
• 13:57 Did You Ever Felt Wrongfully Targeted?
• 16:41 Did You Ever Block Anyone?
• 19:58 What are the Biggest Mistakes About Dating Today?
• 25:44 What’s Your Go-To First Date Activity?
• 27:16 Working in the Same Industry with Your Partner
• 28:52 How Practicing Mindfulness Changes Your Mindset
• 31:07 How Do You Deal with Insecurities?
• 36:18 Focus on the Wins and Amplify the Abundance of Life
• 38:26 Two Things I Look Forward To
• 39:29 What’s Your Travel Pet Peeve?

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What's the top habit for mastering time and energy?

How can we make this habit our own for better time and energy management?

Today, Jay welcomes back his good friend Ed Mylett. Ed is a highly successful entrepreneur who has blended his unique experiences with a diverse set of practical strategies that have made him one of the most sought-after inspirational speakers in the world today. He is a serial entrepreneur who has enjoyed considerable success in part through his unrivaled work ethic and ability to fire up people with his dynamic, high-octane presentations. Over the years, he has been involved in several tech, real estate, medical, and food ventures, among many others, leading him to be named a Success Magazine SUCCESS 125 most influential leader in 2022.

Have you ever stopped to ponder what lies within the depths of your being? Jay and Ed dive into the depths of self-discovery, from uncovering subconscious anchors to making courageous choices, discover the keys to unlocking your full potential and living a life of purpose.

The duo explores the power of intention and action in validating your path, and learn how to navigate the challenges of speaking truth with kindness and compassion. Gain insights into overcoming obstacles, embracing change, and cultivating resilience on the path to success, and reflect on the concept of time and its malleability, and discover the rhythms of success that shape our lives.

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to maximize your time
• How to not get tied to the past
• How to speak your truth
• How to achieve success
• How to change the trajectory of your life

Tune in to this enlightening conversation with Jay and Ed as they share wisdom, inspiration, and practical guidance to help you navigate the journey of self-discovery and personal growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:37 What Have You Been Working Inside?
• 05:56 In Life, We Move Towards What We’re Familiar With
• 06:58 How Do We Stop Creating Stress and Chaos?
• 09:12 The Subconscious Anchors That We’re not Using
• 12:50 Doing the Most Courageous Choices in Life
• 15:31 You Are Always Making People Feel Something
• 19:53 What Do You Do with the Weeds in Your Life?
• 21:07 You Validate Your Intention with Your Action
• 26:28 How to Speak Truth to People in a Kind Way?
• 32:54 You Are Born to Do Something Great with Your Life
• 40:15 Can You Bend and Manipulate Time?
• 46:11 Why You Aren’t in the Rhythm of Success
• 51:57 The Things that Got You Where You Are Won’t Get You Where You’re Going
• 55:34 Your Identity is the Thermostat Setting of Your Life
• 01:01:28 The Danger of Tying Your Identity to What You Do
• 01:04:16 The Three D’s that Will Lead to Burnout

Episode Resources:

• Ed Mylett | Website
• Ed Mylett | Instagram
• Ed Mylett | Twitter
• Ed Mylett | YouTube
• Ed Mylett | Facebook
• Ed Mylett | TikTok
• Ed Mylett | Books

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How do we build our inner confidence?

And how can we stop pretending that we’re okay even if we aren’t?

In a world where we're constantly comparing ourselves to others, Jay reminds us of the importance of embracing our unique qualities and building inner confidence. We'll dive into the dangers of comparing our relationships to others and how it can affect our self-esteem. And find out why nurturing inner confidence is key for personal growth and happiness.

Jay also shares practical tips for boosting confidence, like embracing our quirks, celebrating our strengths, and shifting from seeking validation from others to validating ourselves.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to build self confidence
• How to boost your own strengths
• How to focus more on self-validation

Together, let's learn the actionable ways and and empowering wisdom to help you embrace your uniqueness and cultivate unshakable confidence from the inside out.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:45 Getting Lost in Comparison to Other People’s Relationships
• 05:13 Why We Need to Build on Our Inner Confidence
• 08:35 Confidence is the Belief That You Matter
• 12:47 #1: Being Okay with Liking Things That Others Don’t
• 17:19 #2: Start Noticing Your Own Strengths
• 18:20 #3: Giving Self-Validation Versus Needing External Validation
• 24:05 Your Hero is Your Future Self

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Why does trauma manifest as guilt and shame?

How do we untrap ourselves from the past?

Today, we welcome back renowned speaker on addiction, stress, and childhood development, Dr. Gabor Maté. They dive into the core of human identity and explore the delicate balance between being yourself and seeking acceptance, discovering the liberating truth that authenticity is the ultimate path to self-discovery. Gain insights into the complexities of the human emotional landscape and learn how to navigate and process fear, a powerful force that often holds us captive.

Gabor talks about the top five regrets of dying people - a profound insight that serve as a compass, guiding us to live a life aligned with our deepest values and aspirations. He also talks about the intricacies of guilt and shares wisdom on how we can untrap ourselves from it, the universality of pain and trauma, the synergy between logic and creativity in problem-solving.

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to live with fear and anxiety
• How to deal with deep-rooted trauma
• How to handle grief and pain
• How to improve your personal growth

Together, let's explore the infinite possibilities that unfold when we awaken to our true potential and embrace a mindset of continuous growth.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 03:56 How Do You Heal a Broken Man?
• 07:34 Tell Me Who You Are
• 11:33 The Small Still Voice Within Us
• 13:19 Be Yourself or Be Accepted But not Both at the Same Time
• 17:10 What Are the Most Common Emotions We Feel Everyday?
• 20:26 How Can We Process and Heal From Fear
• 28:11 How Can You Help Someone Who Refused to Be Helped?
• 31:06 The Top Five Regrets of Dying People
• 36:09 How Do We Untrap Ourselves From Guilt?
• 43:03 There’s No Path Without Pain, So Choose Which Path to Take
• 46:53 Embrace Your Freedom Responsibly
• 48:46 There’s No Hierarchy in Pain and Trauma
• 51:07 What is Integrative Thinking?
• 59:27 The Book “Blessed with a Brain Tumor”
• 01:02:00 Can I Continue to Grow?
• 01:04:15 How Do Emotions Translate to Physical Reality?
• 01:13:13 If We Could Just Wake Up to Our Possibilities

Episode Resources:

• Dr. Gabor Maté | Website
• Dr. Gabor Maté | Instagram
• Dr. Gabor Maté | Twitter
• Dr. Gabor Maté | YouTube
• Dr. Gabor Maté | Facebook
• The Myth of Normal: Trauma, Illness, and Healing in a Toxic Culture

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Have you been struggling to get over your ex?

Do you want to find healing after a painful breakup?

Then this episode is for you.

Today, Jay will talk about the complexities of heartbreak and grief, shedding light on the profound emotional and physiological effects of romantic loss. He unravels the intricate workings of the human brain's obsession with love, exploring the biological and psychological mechanisms triggered by heartbreak. There are different physiological changes that occur in the body during a breakup, illuminating the intensity of emotions experienced in the aftermath of romantic dissolution.

Through poignant anecdotes and expert insights, Jay navigates through the stages of grief, offering a compassionate understanding of the rollercoaster of emotions that accompany loss. From denial to anger, bargaining to depression, and ultimately acceptance, Jay guides listeners through the transformative journey of healing and growth.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to overcome a breakup
• The physical manifestations of a heartbreak
• The different stages of grief

Whether you're in the midst of a breakup or seeking to support a loved one through their journey of healing, this episode offers invaluable insights to help you navigate the path forward with grace and resilience.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:19 What Happens When Someone Breaks Our Heart?
• 03:54 The Human Brain Is Obsessed with Love
• 04:55 What Happens in the Body During a Breakup?
• 09:36 Why Breakups Are Comparable to Addiction Withdrawal
• 11:36 The Rage Room
• 13:58 The FIve Stage of Grief
• 16:38 THe First Stage - Denial
• 20:42 The Second Stage - Anger
• 23:03 The Third Stage - Bargaining
• 25:37 The Fourth Stage - Depression
• 27:33 The Final Stage - Acceptance
• 29:02 This is the Best Way to Describe Grief

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How can you let go of something you love to do?

And when is the right time to let go?

Today, Jay is joined by Emmy Award winning host, writer, producer, and actor, James Corden. James is also a Tony Award winning and Golden Globe nominated actor; and a multiple BAFTA Award winner. In April 2023, James wrapped up his eight-year run as host of THE LATE LATE SHOW, which premiered on CBS in March 2015. The show garnered Corden four Emmy Award wins and an additional twenty-three Emmy Award nominations. Corden is the co-creator and executive producer of CARPOOL KARAOKE: THE SERIES for Apple TV+ which won five consecutive Emmy Awards and is currently nominated for 2023. The series also won three Producers Guild Awards, a Critics’ Choice Real TV Award and was nominated for a Writers Guild Award.

James takes you through the successive successes and inevitable misses that shape our lives, the impact of expectations on our experiences and unravel the true meaning of success. He touches on his love for performance, the driving force behind success, and the reality that not all efforts receive the recognition they deserve; as well as the reflective process during significant transitions and gain insights into the complexities of the narcissistic dream.

As the conversation continues, James presents the powerful analogy of letting a balloon go, symbolizing the liberation that comes with releasing expectations. They also touch on the importance of mindful living, questioning how much of tomorrow you're willing to borrow.

In this interview, you'll learn:

• How to effectively chase after success
• How to pick yourself up after failure
• The importance of surrounding yourself with good people
• How to balance family life and career
• How to make your marriage work
• How to slow down when things get tough

This episode is a reminder to cultivate a life filled with purpose, the art of slowing down, embracing life's pace, and savoring each moment.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 02:52 The Successive Success and the Many Misses in Between
• 08:32 The Expectation OF is What Mostly Ruins Things
• 10:22 What is the True Meaning of Success?
• 12:56 Love for Performance and the Drive for Success
• 17:23 Not All Efforts Get Rewarded
• 20:36 Your Life Can Get Flipped Over Every Single Day
• 23:38 Reflection Process During Big Transitions
• 28:13 The Narcissist’s Dream
• 35:50 The Analogy of Letting a Balloon Go
• 41:02 Becoming More than the Man You Actually Are
• 46:44 Sleep is an Extraordinary Gift
• 49:42 How Much of Tomorrow Are You Willing to Borrow?
• 53:15 Why Do You Need to Stop Going on a Diet?
• 56:21 How Do You Keep Good Friends Around?
• 01:00:32 How to Calmly Talk to Your Child?
• 01:06:14 Where is the Best Place to Raise Your Family and Kids?
• 01:11:24 Effective Communication Between Married Couple
• 01:15:43 The Story of a Man Who Just Kept Going
• 01:21:08 The David Beckham Statue Prank
• 01:22:35 Learning to Slow Down and Not Rush Anything
• 01:32:27 James on Final Five

Episode Resources:

• James Corden | Instagram
• James Corden | Twitter
• The Late Late Show with James Corden | YouTube
• The Late Late Show with James Corden | TikTok

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Do you want to do more this month?

How do you effectively become more productive?

Today, Jay will share with us how to maximize your efficiency, ensuring that this month becomes your most productive one yet. Are you ready to unlock your full potential?

Jay introduces the concept of 25-minute stretches of focused work, strategically interspersed with 5-minute breaks—a game-changer for heightened productivity. Or engage in job-related tasks for 52 minutes and then take a 17-minute break.

Jay sheds light on the wisdom behind the practice of tackling the easiest or hardest tasks first, providing valuable insights into mastering time management. Let's uncover the secrets of distinguishing between creative and logical days, understanding how to harness each for optimal results.

In this episode, you’ll learn:

• How to become more productive effectively
• How to manage your time without stress
• How to be more intentional with time management

The best way to remain productive is to find ways to eliminate distractions that keep you from accomplishing your tasks.

With Love and Gratitude,

Jay Shetty

What We Discuss:

• 00:00 Intro
• 01:20 Do you want to become more productive this month?
• 03:44 #1: Engage In Job Related Tasks For 52 Minutes And Then Take A 17-Minute Break
• 06:57 #2: The 25 minute stretches of focused work broken down by 5-minute breaks
• 11:32 #3: TTC - Task, Time, Calendar
• 15:44 #4: The Practice of Doing the Easiest/Hardest Things First
• 17:38 #5: Creative Versus Logical Days
• 22:00 #6: Energy Versus Time
• 25:13 #7: Putting Your Phone Away Lessens Distraction

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